When I started this project, I expected to struggle with thinking of topics. I was really surprised to find that as soon as I started talking about things, I had a flood of other things that I wanted to talk about. I felt like my filter disappeared, and I had to rebuild it with some new parameters. That probably wasn't reflected at all in what actually appeared here, but it was a strange experience for me. Usually I don't even feel the initial impulse to share things, let alone actually share them. I've found that there are a couple of additional questions I want to ask myself (to add to the ones I talked about in my first post this month) when I'm thinking about writing something for public consumption. These were the questions I started with:
- What do I give away (either in the sense of revealing, or in the sense of a gift) when I say something, and to whom am I giving it?
- What things do I share because they might help someone else?
- What things am I willing to trade away to any taker because I want to be known?
- What things do I save for the people I choose?
- What do I hear that someone chose me for?
I'm adding these:
- What things are strictly self-serving or attention-seeking?
- What things should really just be said to one person? (For me, this is mainly a bravery question. Am I inclined to write something here because it's easier than saying it to the person I really want to hear it? But it's also a good guard against passive-aggressive posting. I've had the impulse to write private things publicly for both reasons.)
- Am I willing to say things about myself that might upset my family? [Yes.]
- Am I willing to say things about my family that might upset my family? [No.] (These last two questions are a fine line apart, and I'm sure I've gotten it wrong more than once, and probably will do again.)
Three more days to go. I'm curious to see what I'll have to say.